5-minute word vom #6: failure and consistency

 Date: January 20, 2023
Start time: 12:30 PM
What I'm thinking about: what is failure and the challenges of consistency

Also, how to be gentle with yourself - had the thought this morning about the challenges of consistency after I fell off the wagon (is that the right term? The more time I spend living abroad in a different language, the more I seem to mix up my English idioms --- for example, I ordered eggs "easy over" the other day) with my daily Bible verse challenge (more on that if you'd like later). But this morning I told myself that consistency is not about succeeding every day; rather, it's about patiently but persistently coming back to pick up something even after failing and/or dropping off. That's how I comforted myself. 

If I'll be honest, the only thing I've managed to pick up and maintain consistency with over the last 3? years or so is flossing and brushing my teeth every single night before going to bed. (Yes, it's a habit I should have developed years ago so bite me.) All the things I've tried to pick up - blogging, instagramming, duolingo, programming, running, even daily yoga and quiet time -- I've only managed to maintain for a maximum of a few months before getting overwhelmed by life's distractions. And each time I try to pick it up again, I have varying degrees of success. 

Coming back to this blog after a hiatus, I read the previous two blogs and saw what a stunning failure my self-challenge for a blog a day for 28 days was. And again I felt disappointed in myself, a little embarrassed by my attempt to hold myself accountable via a public declaration which evidently had no impact on my performance, and not a little relief that this is my personal void on the internet where not much attention turns this way. 


Thanksgiving 2022 (T-27 days)

 Post is going up late but it's still Thanksgiving in the States so I'm still giving thanks. 

A few things I'm grateful for this year:

1) Having the resources to be able to travel and to see the things and people I seen this year. Even in the midst of a recession, being jobless as a student, having time, savings and minimal expenses is a privilege that I recognize and am so thankful for.

2) The unconditional generosity that I have received from so many people around me. Whether in emotional support, friendship, food, a place to sleep, and so many more, I have received so much (my karma is so deep in debt, I need to settle down soon so I can begin to pay it back heh). In other words, I am so blessed. 

3) Family - hopefully one day we won't be split across 4 different time zones spanning 18 hours of time differences, but I'm eternally grateful for the bonds that still somehow remain strong even with the years and distance apart. 

4) Ultimate Frisbee - this community has provided an international family and connections (as well as exercise!) wherever I go. This year I had the privilege of playing the most ultimate I have in quite some time: making new friends and seeing old friends, representing some countries in some cool tournaments, and having a blast in general.  

There's so much more, but I'm bad at lists. 

Call Me Old-Fashioned (T-28 Days)

Almost exactly 4 weeks left in this journey. 

I've been recommended by so many to start a blog, become a content creator, share my story -- and I've been so afraid to create something and put it out there to the big wide world. I'm also a recovering perfectionist that still feels like I need to create this beautiful complex website that will drive up user visits. In the meantime, while I don't get anything set up at the end of the day, I placate myself and my small following by posting stories on my newly created Instagram account (after getting my old account hacked many months ago) and by telling myself that I'm accumulating these photos and videos to tell my story one day, some how. 

Excuses, I know. 

And while I've considered creating a substack or some other easier-to-find and digestible mode of information distribution, I find myself reluctant to start all over from scratch, at least until I have something that I know I want to stick to for good. I already have so many half-finished projects that I started and abandoned for other new sites and technologies and ideas. 

So in the meantime, I'm back here on my very old blog and documenting some thoughts and experiences in my last month in Korea. I'll try to be dedicated to posting one reflection per day for the last 28 days, although I already know it's going to be a challenge with friends visiting and upcoming travels. But there are so many stories and memories in me that if I'm afraid that if I don't record them down somewhere (if I try to write everything in my journal I will definitely run out of space and my hand will continuously cramp -- yes more excuses but the truth!), I will lose them eventually to the gray fog of forgotten memories and that vague sense of loss and nostalgia that is all that remains. 

On the other hand, I've been thankful for the conversations I've had with friends who have touched in to see how my journey has been going. These conversations revive my experienced sentiments and have forced me to coherently articulate the swirl of emotions and thoughts that I've been constantly undergoing during my nearly two months here.

So here I am, mumbling into my corner of the void of the internet. One day I will have SEO, a beautiful layout, a great URL, and a huge devoted following (tbh, do I really want that? or do I just want this space to share my story and to help others who feel equally lost navigating their way through this confusing adventure called life?). In the meantime, Reader - if you're there - thanks for sticking it out with me amidst the messiness of my brain's products, and give me a shout! it would be a nice motivator / accountability spur. 

5-minute word vom #5: unrealized crushes and fevers

Date: September 12, 2022 
Start time: 7:21 PM 
What I'm thinking about: unrealized crushes

I passed this past weekend (read: from Friday night til Monday morning) in a feverish state of coughing (until my abdominals were cramping in pain), chills interspersed with clammy sweats, pounding headaches, vivid dreams, and crazy mashups of thoughts. It was, to date, possibly the sickest I've been in quite some time. (According to the antigen tests I took on Friday afternoon pre-this wild weekend and the one I took this morning after I finally felt well enough to venture a few steps without feeling dizzy, it wasn't COVID, so hooray?) 

But in the midst of the various crazy dreams that I had throughout this weekend, one of the ones which stuck out to me, perhaps because it was so unexpected - was that of a dear childhood friend of mine. I usually dream of people from different aspects and periods of my life in various places that I've lived in or traveled to; however, one would assume that those that show up in your dreams tend to be the ones that are closer to one's waking thoughts. However, the person that appeared in this dream was quite unexpected. I don't know - perhaps his name had popped up while I was casually scrolling through my Facebook feed a while ago? 

The thing that I was surprised to realize both in my dream and outside, once I awoke, was how attracted I found myself to this person. And upon waking and being in surprise that he had showed up in my dream, and that I had been so attracted to him in the dream, made me wonder if I had subconsciously been attracted to him so many years ago (I haven't seen him in maybe 15 years?). And when I think of our relationship back then, he was truly a cherished and trusted friend, somebody who was warm and I feel like I could trust no matter what. He was somebody who was a genuine friend without expecting or asking for more (and perhaps that was why I didn't realize that I could be attracted to him, or perhaps it is my now adult self finding myself attracted to that version of pure trustworthy companionship/friendship?)

It was a strange but beautiful and slightly nostalgic feeling. I would be curious to ask him what he thought about our relationship back then, but I think that at this point, after having been out of touch for so long and given that I believe he's happily married with children, it would be unseasonable to contact him out of the blue with such a question. 

5-minute word vom #4: hearing loss

Date: August 21, 2022 
Start time: 4:20 PM 
What I'm thinking about: hearing loss

I just saw an article that showed that researchers have been developing potential forms of gene therapy that can help prevent genetic hearing loss. 

As somebody who has genetic hearing loss (hey friends, fun fact: I'm borderline medically deaf - does that make me eligible for disability benefits...?), this is super exciting news to hear. Although I suppose it should be encouraging on behalf of potential future children I may have, I was more excited for potential future development of this treatment and/or others that might be able to help improve my own hearing. 

As somebody who first failed her hearing exam at 8 years old and who has lived her entire life with moderate to severe hearing loss, the hearing aids that I've been more or less consistently wearing since 2019 have been both a huge improvement to my quality of life but are still annoying to deal with - my ears hurt after wearing them for a long time; I deal with feedback noise on a regular basis; I'm constantly afraid that I will forget backup batteries or that I will leave the aids at home when I'm on my way to an important meeting; so on and so forth. It's definitely been a love/hate relationship with hearing aids (I had my first pair in college, but the microphone was positioned behind my ear, resulting in a lot of noise coming from behind me --- not good when 5'2" and therefore positioned in the front row of a choir. I only wore those during lectures and eventually stopped wearing them altogether. I also had my first traumatizing experience with the financial system when I got charged 2 years' worth of interest in one go on the price of my hearing aids due to not paying off the entirety of the cost within 2 years. Thankfully there was eventually a class-action lawsuit against the bank for not providing sufficient information to its clients several years later, but the amount of stress I experienced in that moment has scarred me to where I am extra careful about reading the fine print when signing up for payment plans and loans -- and try to avoid them as much as possible altogether). I hate being dependent on anything, and being dependent upon these hearing aids causes feelings of frustration, particularly when I have to make sure I have them on, or that I am extra careful with them (particularly when around water). I also hate playing Telephone (that game where you whisper into people's ears and pass a message down a line of folks), maybe for obvious reasons now. Even with hearing aids, it gives me a lot of stress.

On the other hand, there are some benefits of having hearing loss - I sometimes wonder if I don't remember experiencing much bullying as a kid because I couldn't hear the other kids whispering during class. Some "friends" used to have a joke in which they would just whisper my name really loudly until (if) I finally heard and turned around, but asides from that, I was largely unaware of whispers, rumors, if people were saying things in class, which means I was unresponsive -- thereby making me a boring target. I am also blessedly able to sleep through higher amounts of noise than others, since I don't hear a lot of background noise (I didn't realize the extent of this until my first pair of hearing aids, holy cow what a difference!) If there is a screaming baby on the plane, I will still unfortunately hear it, but it will be much softer and less painful to my ears when I take out my hearing aids.  #silverlinings

I ended up rambling a bit longer about this subject, but that's the life of a nearly?half? deaf person.

End time: 4:34 PM 

5-minute word vom #3: ADHD

Date: August 15, 2022 
Start time: 1:28 PM 
What I'm thinking about: ADHD 

 Primarily because when I first opened the tab to create my next 5-minute blog post in the attempt to maintain consistency, my original thought was to write about what a real start-up is and to discuss the differences between what people think a startup is and what my best friend says it is, and the impact of that conversation on me. However, in the short span of time between opening the editor and actual starting to write, my brain has gone to therapy and mental health to a friend's thesis draft to compassion fatigue / feelings of irritation and then the realization that my brain has cycled through so many and widely different topics (and multiple times) in such a short period of time... that I can't help but wonder if I have some form of ADHD. Or is this how people's brains tend to function normally? Even when I am in a normal conversation my brain tends to jump to other (albeit related) tangents. Sometimes it's based on qualifiers that I include in my statements, sometimes it's based on relationships that I realize in the middle of saying something. Sometimes it feels like my neural networks are being pulled in a million different directions. Alternatively, it feels like my sense of focus is like a pinball bouncing around from one part of my brain to the other, lighting up like the bumpers that flash or sometimes riding a wave of thoughts, only to jump to another train of thought. Welcome to my brain.

5-minute word vom #2: heritage

 Date: August 7, 2022

Start Time: 9:45 PM

What I'm thinking about: Korea

Something I've been thinking about more and more frequently these days, particularly as I'm trying to figure out the next steps of my life. For some reason every time one chapter closes it feels like the next step will be overwhelmingly important, when in reality it is just one stepping stone. I'm not sure why each life decision feels like it is going to be so permanent when we are really just selecting the next pebble to throw into the pond of life. 

I've been wanting to go to Korea on an extended trip for as long as I can remember. More specifically, the last time I recall turning this idea over in my head was the last time I lived in Spain also, in 2015. My internship was coming to an end in October and my thought was to spend a few months in Korea getting to know my extended family still residing there as well as visiting a country where my parents came from and the [old] culture in which I was raised - getting to know the motherland, so to speak, and perhaps exploring my roots. As romantic as it sounds, those thoughts were cut short with a job offer that took me back to the States for five more years before the threads of impermanence? or lack of belonging? or inquietude? began tugging me back abroad. Now that I'm at another crossroads in life and again without a clear path ahead, do I make the leap this time? 

5-minute word vom #1

 Challenging myself to five minutes of writing at least once a week. Date: July 29, 2022. Current start time: 6:35 PM. 

Goal is to select a topic (and/or start typing about whatever topic I have in my head at the time of sitting down). Motivation: years and years of failed attempts to start a blog, get a following, whatever. Also, because of my inability to post anything that is neither 1) repost/short catchy phrase or 2) some long-ass winded entry that took me hours and hours to put together. Inspiration taken from a few newsletters by folks fearlessly sharing about things that happen to them. Also knowing that I can type above average means that my entries should have greater output than the average person (I think the last time I checked I was at 119 WPM.) Looking for folks to give me ideas to talk about, accountability because I hate letting others down more than I dislike letting myself down. Else, the content will be whatever I'm thinking about. Can I really be so fearless?

End time: 6:40 PM.  

What it's like being 4x vaccinated in March 2022

 I've been flirting with sharing this story for some time now, since every time I casually mention to anybody around me that I've already been vaccinated four times people tend to do a doubletake and then ask me if I'm crazy. I received four vaccine shots probably before most folks started getting their first booster shot (first dose received February 2021, fourth in July 2021). 

I learned today that Moderna requested the FDA (USA Food and Drug Administration, for non-Americans) to approve a second booster shot for adults (aged 65 and up for now), and I don't see why it won't be approved, but I also know that there are still lots of folks arguing about whether it's a good idea to even get their first shot, nevertheless four. 

I stand as a living testimony to the effectiveness of four Moderna shots and impervious to COVID-19 to date (knock on wood) despite living with - and spending Christmas with - a COVID-positive flatmate who had the highly contagious omicron variant, not to mention however many encounters with COVID-positive folks I've likely had over the past year and some.

So, I've told you the who and the what and the when of the story; here are the rest of the details:

Where? I received my first set of vaccinations in the States. While it was unfortunate that I got stuck in the US for the first half of my second semester of my masters program in Smart Cities and Communities instead of in Mons, Belgium, where I had a cute 300+ year-old flat with my classmate waiting for me to keep her company in the midst of the lockdown-like restrictions still in place at the time, I was fortunate enough to be able to get early access to the COVID-19 vaccines and receive both doses while waiting for my visa to be approved. At this time, in most places only those aged 65+ or at risk or frontline workers were eligible to be vaccinated; however, given that there were many situations of extra vaccines due to no-shows, etc., I got lucky enough to snag an extra vaccine that happened to be available. Once that was accomplished, it was just a matter of being scheduled in to receive the second dose one month down the road. 

The second set of vaccines (also Moderna, #ModernaGal) was obtained in Belgium. When the vaccines became more available throughout the country for the younger age groups, we received a letter from the health ministry inviting us to come in for vaccinations, which began around June for the Wallonie region.

Why? Why not? I love shots! Just kidding. While I was confident in the effectiveness of just two doses, I was not confident in the small white paper card that was provided a la CDC (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) when I received my shots in the States. Given that the EU was in discussion about a Digital Green Certificate, and having already had paperwork problems which barred me from boarding a plane a few months back, I was wary that flashing my plain CDC card with the handwritten details of my vaccinations would fly (see what I did there?) with any boarding agent. I also figured that the Belgian records system for vaccinations had not be developed enough to somehow incorporate vaccinations from somewhere outside of Belgium. Hence, after consulting with a doctor to ensure that there weren't any risks of getting an extra round of shots (in addition to the vaccines, there was also the matter of how recently I'd had a needle stuck into my arm), I received my two shots at a health clinic in Mons, and also obtained a Digital COVID Certificate.  

So what was/is it like?

  • Physically: the third and fourth shots were similar to getting my second shot. I was lucky and had relatively minor symptoms - low-grade fever, mostly felt really tired and out of it for a day with a very sore and itchy arm. I have not yet contracted COVID-19 (knock on wood again) that I'm aware of, even after having several close contacts and even being in the same flat with somebody who had the omicron variant. 
  • Logistically: since folks in the US didn't really know (or accept the EU digital certificate) for a while -- Hawaii entry requirements in August 2021, I'm looking at you -- it was really nice to have a CDC card to wave around while in the States. Since everybody in Europe has a QR scanner and automatic recognition of the EU digital certificate documentation, it makes life really easy to just pull up my Belgian health app that has the copy of the QR code to my digital health certificate wherever I go (airports, establishments, etc.). The only hiccup is that now that some places are requiring a booster shot or a final vaccine dose older than 180 days (this expiration period varies by country), I don't know if this means that I will need to go back in for a 5th shot sometime soon if only to comply with bureaucratic requirements. The last doctor I brought this concern up with asked if I really liked getting vaccines and told me not to worry about it, so for now, that's where I'm at, although it's looking more like I'll probably end up getting another (read: 5th) booster sometime soon. If you'd like to accompany me on this saga, hit subscribe / leave a note in the comments letting me know!  

Moral of the story: if you haven't already and you can, go get vaccinated. 

Questions? Happy to share stories about how I got stuck in the States, or about my close calls with COVID, or about spending Christmas with my COVID-positive flatmate, or even about what it was like leaving my job and the US to start a master's degree in Europe that requires moving every 6 months in the middle of a global pandemic. Drop a comment with what you'd like to read about! 



on the concept of home

found this draft written on July 1, 2013, and thought it still feels relevant. better posting it later than never? 

re-reading this 9 years down the road, i have called so many more places home since that i don't know that i have a singular Home. i suppose that's why the adage "Home is where the heart is" still rings true for so many. i also recognize more now when a place has become Home, although it still takes a trip away and coming back to the comforts of my known environment and bed for me to savor the feeling of being in a place i can call home. maybe leaving and losing that feeling of Home so many times has taught me at this point in life to recognize it sooner?  
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how do you know when a place has become Home (with a capital H)?

in all the corners of the world where one might discover herself, what sets one nook apart from the other? is it measured by time? depth of immersion? number of relationships?

i think we all grow up with this concept of Home. for most people, Home is where they have grown up, where their parents live, or where their hometown is. Home

Home is that place where you always come back to, where you are always hating and loving and the same time, itching to leave but longing to return.

but Home is also moments frozen in time.

if you venture outside of the confines of your house, you discover a whole new world, and when you travel - be it to sleepaway camp, university, another country - you start experiencing new feelings that are nostalgic and meeting new people that feel like old friends, who become your brothers and sisters and mothers and fathers, and the streets that you walk over and over again to the point where you could walk blindfolded from the local favorite nightspot back home -- but you don't really think about it. you don't consider it, or recognize it, or know that that kind of familiarity is indicative of a great significance.

you know a place has become Home only after you're gone. once you are no longer there, something twists inside your heart every time you see something that invariably reminds you of Home. odds are, there will be many more reminders than less. this is how you recognize what Home has become.

you know a place has become Home when your next new home feels strange, alien, and even though it is beautiful, it is excruciatingly difficult to open up your heart again, to try to share it when it has already been given away to someplace else.

you know a place has become home when you are desperate to see those who have become your family, even as you try to build a new community around yourself. you meet lots of people, but very few really, and something feels hollow, and you constantly compare and think back to the family you've left behind, even if they are no longer there themselves. you hungrily scan through Facebook photos as if by seeing their faces they will be closer to you once more the way they were when you were cooking dinner together less than one week ago.

you know a place has become Home only after you have left.

post-elections reflections 2016

November 9, 2016

It’s 8:30 PM and I’m in bed. I feel like if I go to sleep now, when I wake up, it will again be November 9, but everything that has happened over the last 20-some hours will just have been a bad dream. It feels surreal, that Donald Trump has just become my President for the next four years. I’ve never been a particularly patriotic American citizen, but I have always loved what America stood for, that American dream which lured so many people (including my parents) to her shores. But now, everything just feels broken.

Last night I was in a bar watching the election results come in, and Trump was ahead. I turned to my boyfriend and asked, “What if Trump really does win?” He assured me that it wasn’t possible. He would have to win every swing state and then some. So later, I allowed myself to drift off to sleep while the counts were still coming in, assured that when I woke up Hillary would have won like everybody expected and that would be that. I woke up around 2 am and turned on my phone to check the results. And thought I was dreaming. I had to wake my boyfriend up, saying, “Hey... I think Trump won.” He woke up and checked the news on his phone. Then looked up the count results on Google, just to confirm. Then refreshed the page a few times. We tried to go back to sleep, but it was a long time in coming.

Getting to work felt surreal. I wondered if I were to not show up to the office, whether the election results could be used as a legitimate excuse for missing work. (I work for a foreign firm, so no.) I have one co-worker who is a foreign national with a green card. He is also gay. We just gave each other crazy faces and discussed for a few minutes about how we could not believe what had just happened. Another co-worker came in, an older, white Texan male, who expressed extreme relief at the election finally being over and done with, and that he was not unhappy with the results. A third co-worker came in - a white woman - and she was elated. She struck a victory stance and yelled, “wahoo!” as she expressed her joy that Trump had triumphed over Clinton. “He’s gonna get things done,” she said beamingly to my manager. My manager is a young man from another country who came to the States for his master’s degree and hasn’t left since. When the overjoyed co-worker left our room, we turned to each other. “I can’t believe that she actually supports and is happy for this kind of man to be your new president,” he said. “Doesn’t she realize the consequences of having someone like him…” 
“and for somebody like you…” 
“Don’t worry about me. I’ll be fine, wherever I end up...” 
He would never admit it to me, but I can’t imagine how he, amongst countless other people, must have felt waking up today to the news that the new President elect in this country that they have called home for so many years, will make it so much more difficult for them to continue calling it their home.

At lunch with co-workers, I couldn’t focus on anything else, couldn’t talk about anything else. At the restaurant, my eyes kept on being drawing to the TV screens, with news anchors discussing the results, with the counts being replayed from the night before. My parents called. My mom asked if I had voted, to which I replied, “of course, did you?” to which she responded that they had. Then she remarked, “Well, looks like Trump is our new president.” 
“Looks like it.” 
“Well, God must have chosen him.” 
“No, we chose him. You chose him – we Americans chose him.” 
“Yeah, but it must have been God’s will and it was part of His plan.” 
“Uh…” 
“And God will guide him.” 
“I don’t think he believes in God, mom.” 
“Well, we have to pray that he will be led by God.” 
“But I don’t think he believes in God.” 
“Well, we have to pray that he will be moved by God. God chose him – just like He chose us, you know?” 
“Um….” 
I didn’t have the courage to ask who she had voted for. I was afraid of hearing her response.

All day long, my Facebook feed has been flooded by statuses by my friends – both American and international – expressing their fear, disbelief, anger, disgust that the man who is expected to be the leader of a nation that was founded on democracy, liberty, and equality should be a racist, misogynist, bigot, xenophobe, and fear-monger who was able to capitalize on people's frustrations and uneducated fears. I’m discouraged by how many people were angry enough that they would consider Donald Trump a more qualified option over Hillary Clinton, and I’m frustrated by those who thought that by voting for third-party candidates like Gary Johnson or Jill Stein they felt they were actually going to make a difference. I’m baffled by how Hillary Clinton could win the popular vote, but the Donald Trump would end up with the electoral votes - and with that, the presidency. I’m scared – not necessarily for myself – but for my friends, for my classmates, for my colleagues, who genuinely feel unsafe – because of those simmering feelings of resentment and hate that now have free reign to burst to the surface in the form of open discrimination, hurtful remarks and actual physical aggression against people whose only transgression happen to be the color of their skin, where their mother gave birth to them, or the person they fell in love with. I wonder how the description of what it means to be “American” will be defined over the next four years – or even over the next few months. I marvel how words like “nasty” and “disastrous” have become so engrained into even professional journalism’s common vocabulary. I feel ashamed to call myself an American and to be associated with what the Untied States of America has decided will be her image to the rest of the world. I’m trying to stay optimistic – or at the very least, pragmatic – but I’m finding it really, really difficult. Even now, I can’t help but hang on to the thought that tomorrow, or the day after, or next week, there will be a recount, or something will happen, that will make all this go away. I don’t believe that protesting will do anything, and I believe that we must continue to move forward, but I still can’t fully comprehend that this is the reality we live in. 

is this the real life

Dallas, TX

if i could describe my life this past year in airport codes, it would go like this, not including all the miscellaneous trips made during and in between:
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it feels like forever, not 2 weeks ago, that i was sitting in plaza españa with my friend, reminiscing over takeout chinese from an underground restaurant and comparing to the last time we had sat there just a few months ago with takeout chinese and smuggled pear-flavored beers talking about how far we had come, how much we had been through, how much more lay ahead in wait for us.  

and now, i'm back in the states. and this time, there is no stop date. 

i've never traveled, or lived, anywhere in my entire life for an open ended period of time. 
to have stopped in a place that i never imagined myself, to a state that i never truly saw myself returning to, to be here without an end date is exciting when i don't think about it too hard at best, anxiety-attack inducing at worst. for the first time, i've come to place where i don't know how long i will stay. there is no limit. there is no time frame. there is no expiration date. to be honest, it is terrifying, bringing back that old fear of falling into complacency and/or slowly going crazy. i eloped with my wanderlust, and i had eloped hard. old habits are hard to kick. 

on the positive side, i may have had enough movement recently to pacify my errant tendencies for a while at least. 

the last two weeks have been a blur of packing, unpacking, retreading my favorite routes of a city i hesitantly fell in love with in order to imprint the sidewalks, the parks, the cafe-bars into my sandy memory, driving, driving, driving, moving from one place to another, constantly, never stopping until i finally arrived to dallas. staying out all night with my visiting friends at a dance club in madrid. flying all day. driving to princeton for a day to pick up a guitar smuggled over from spain. driving forever and a day to texas. and once in dallas, couchsurfing with total strangers - getting lost in the largest state fair in the nation trying to find my co-workers - driving from flat to flat in the search for a home - getting kicked out of my hotel - crashing at a friend's house - getting pulled over for the first time in my life for speeding (there's a story behind that one, i promise i'm not a reckless driver) - and all of the angels along the way that have ensured that i felt welcome, that i had a roof over my head at night, that fed me, that befriended me so that despite being brand new in an unfamiliar city, i am not alone.

the next few months will keep me busy learning more about my company and the roads that it maintains, driving between fort worth and dallas, learning new software, settling into my new home and meeting and making new friends. i never wanted to grow up but it seems that for now, this will be the real life.

ferris wheel at the state fair of texas


blood

sangre. 

i've had two especially memorable encounters regarding this word thus far during my time in spain.

primero. 
a typical situation, a variation of which occurs without fail every time i am abroad: shopping in a corner store that is run by a chinese family (chinos) and being mistaken for an employee. a spanish boy approaches me and asks, "sangre?" being the color-blind (i'm joking) american that i am, i have no idea why this boy is saying the word "blood" to me, or if i am even hearing him correctly. i look at him blankly. "sangre?" he repeats, pointing at his arm. "blood?" in an even worse accent. i look at him pointing at his arm, then look down at mine, half-expecting to see blood spurting out from an unnoticed cut. "sangre falso," he clarifies. fake blood. the boy is looking for fake blood for a costume. fortunately, an employee rounds the corner, and hustles over to take care of the customer's needs.

segundo. 
actually, i didn't see blood, fortunately, although i know that there was plenty of it spilled. san fermin. acclaimed spanish festival in the city of pamplona, where hordes of people come out in drives to the otherwise tranquil city in the north of the country to participate in the running (and eventual killing) of 6 bulls per day. the entire city turns out in a mass of white and red, and the streets are crammed full of families and children and performers and drunkards 24/7 for the weeklong duration of the festival. the revelers participate in relays of drunkenness: those who stay out all night long, and those who stay out all day long.
the day starts with my arrival to pamplona after a 4 hour drive. i dutifully change into my white tshirt and red scarf and sash and head into the city center. while waiting to meet my friends who are already in town, my host's father shows me the plaza de toros, a massive stadium filled with debris and drunken revelers showering each other with sangria, the fruit wine that unsurprisingly has the tint of blood. "all this," my friend's father tells me, "will be gone by tomorrow morning. the city municipality will be cleaning this all up so thoroughly so as to make sure that there is not a piece of trash in the arena when the bulls and the runners enter at 8 in the morning." the city waste management works around the clock during this week, continually cleaning up the hundreds of tons of waste that accumulates throughout the day and night.
i find my friends, and off we go to join the hundreds of other people gathered on a nearby field to watch the fireworks show as we mix and down giant solo cups of cheap red wine with coca-cola, a young spanish favorite known as kalimotxo. the fireworks are impressive: every night is a performance engineered by a different firm, all of which compete with each other in an annual international competition. once the fireworks are over, the crowds shamble over to the plaza de castillas to continue finishing the gallons of premixed kalimotxo and sangria before hitting the bars.
i have made the mistake of wearing sandals to san fermin. more than having people stepping on my feet (which did happen often enough through the night), the worst was the pool of alcohol, piss, vomit, and god knows what else that my feet stepped through and were soaked in throughout the night. by the time dawn broke and we emerged from that labyrinth of bars back into the open plaza, my ankles down were covered in a filth i did not, do not want to think about what it was comprised of.
classic night out scenario: cell phone completely dead. friends wasted/zombies on their feet/already in the beginnings of their hangovers. host disappeared in the last minute as we exited the last bar of the night. anxious friend who needs to get home in the morning but doesn't want to leave a foreign small asian girl alone in the city. the encierro in 20 minutes (it is 7:40 am). not much else to do but head over to the plaza de toros. the fences that comprise the encierro are already lined with people both sober and still drunk. with all the best positions for key views taken. even though it is so early, there are still so many people out to watch the running of the bulls.

"a san fermín pedimos, por ser nuestro patrón, nos guíe en el encierro dándonos su bendición. viva san fermín! viva! gora san fermín! gora!"

6 euros each, and we are settled in the third tier of the stands in the plaza de toros, eagerly watching the large screen that broadcasts live from the first shot indicating the release of the bulls to the moment the last of the bulls enters the ring. except in the end, the last bull doesn't. he turns around mid-run, uncertain, confused, dangerous, and is eventually herded back to the pen from whence he was released at 8 am.
4 runners down (one a man from philadelphia!). those "runners"that finish the run a full minute before the bulls are jeered as they enter the arena (the run lasts approximately 1.5 minutes in total, from the moment they are released to when they enter the arena). the bulls and runners swarm in, and the bulls are led into their corrals. it is time for the vaquillas, the little bulls, to be brought out. the entrance of each one into the ring is marked by bodies squeezing themselves on the ground in front of the entrance of the gate from which the animal exits, flying over their heads as it jumps out into an arena filled with a tens of human bodies in a stadium filled with the roars of hundreds of voices. then the jesting begins. the provocation. the daredevils run wildly at the vaquilla, waving their arms to get its attention so that it will charge at them as they sprint and attempt to duck its horns. most make it away; some don't, although most remain relatively unharmed. a few fall and do not get back up, and are quickly borne away by other fellow runners to the side of the ring where a team of medics await. one particularly foolish boy gets caught by the bull, and the crowd chants, "tonto! tonto!" serves you right for provoking the poor animal. another garners boos and jeers from the crowd when he gives the poor animal a resounding slap on its hind which echoes throughout the entire plaza, causing it to rear and swivel in fear and panic and pain.
eventually the vaquilla is corralled back into its enclosure and the next released. and so it continues. a glance around, and most people are still going strong, considering many have been out all night long. others are fast asleep, snoring in the stands even amidst the noise of the crowd. we decide to leave before the last vaquilla is released so as not to get caught up in the guaranteed mass exodus.
after walking around looking for an open (and not packed) cafe/bar, we finally find one where i can put my phone to charge. un beso, a hug, and a brief goodbye and i settle down to a pincho tortilla española and a café con leche as i wait for my battery to revive enough to dig up my friend's address.
i enter the house at 11 am, and stumble into bed, to recharge. as i sleep, i will miss the recortadores, the performers who flip and jump and dance around the bulls, and i will miss the various parades and performances in the many different plazas located throughout the city, and i will definitely miss the bull fight, but that is not my turn of the relay, and to be honest, i don't mind. i'm not sure how i would take the sight of real sangre dyeing the plaza de [muerte de] toros.
but come nightfall, i will be a sanferminer nevertheless, dressed in red and white and singing and dancing along the age-old streets and bars, and maybe, although i will have been several days back in the office in madrid by the time the festivities end, maybe, i will have internally raised my hand and mournfully chanted along on the 14th,
"pobre de mí, pobre de mí, que se han acabado las fiestas de san fermín"


i'm back.

again.
as much of a failure i have been at blogging on a regular basis, at least i can say that i try. every time. like new year's resolutions. sometimes it is not so evident, since i don't even share a single page from my scrapbook of experiences, but the intent is always there, i swear.

this time i am in madrid, españa. i arrived 4 weeks / nearly one month ago.

being back in spain has been strange; like getting to know an old friend - or an old lover - once again, hesitant, unsure, foreign. from santander to madrid, from erasmus to corporate intern, 2 years in between, are those little but key changes that make it impossible for things to be the same as they were before. it's not so bad, but doesn't feel great either. you miss the old things, the past comforts, the ease and familiarity, and wonder why it doesn't come back so quickly.

this is the first time i have returned to a country that i once lived in abroad. i have yet to get back together with an ex, so it is difficult to sustain the metaphor that i had going for a while there, due to lack of comparative experience.

i have also spent all of one weekend in madrid in my first four weekends living in spain.

the first weekend, i returned to the northern coast, which released an onslought of nostalgia. my second weekend, to a small city in Norway, where i had to make a potentially life-changing decision. the third weekend i passed hanging out in an old friend's piso and walking around downtown madrid. this past weekend, i went on a spontaneous trip to Scotland, where i climbed the highest summit in the UK and tried haggis for the first time.

one month later, i can say i know madrid a little better than when i first arrived, but my grasp of the city and her contours is still pitiful at best. and i am still as shy as a newlywed, even having lived in spain in the past. unsure of what my role is, where it is, who to seek out or where to frequent. habits yet unformed, friends still acquaintances. one month in, and madrid is not home yet. falling in love always happens in the second, the third month, i know - but one month is still a long time to spend in one place. con tiempo, i tell myself. con tiempo.




just another reblog

"there's no way to describe the way your spirit evolves when you leave everything you know behind."

>> the hardest part about traveling no one talks about

wanderlust

...is so ITCHY.

reading these articles on "don't date a girl who travels" or "no te enamores de una mujer que viaje y/o escriba" or "date a girl who travels" brings back that itch. and oh, it's so itchy that it's almost transcends that boundary between the spiritual and the physical and i need to move, need to scratch, need to get out.

after living, traveling, exploring the lands of four different continents over the last three years, never staying in one place longer than 6 months before taking a trip somewhere, even long road trips every other month aren't quite enough to quell this seemingly insatiable itch that i've got inside. and i'm terrified, because they tell me that i need to find a job and i need to settle down and i need to create a stable life for myself once i graduate but i'm afraid that means that i'll be stuck in the same place for years and a part of me will die with every month that passes by when i can't just take off because of my work that holds me down. i'm genuinely scared of encountering that situation. so in the meantime i want to get out and move and drive and go to wherever i need to in order to feel whole once more, complete, healed. but i still can't figure out what or where or when that exactly is.


algo de español

Es interesante ver cómo han desarollado mis pensamientos, puesto que antes pensaba siempre en ingles, y ahora pienso una mezcla, pero con cada día que pase acá en Bolivia después de estar en España, mi mente suele volver a español, a lo menos para las cosas sencillas. Pero tan pronto como quiera decir algo un poco más complicado, algo que requiera vocabulario más complejo, me fallan las palabras y me dejan una gringa sin poder expresarse.

Pero el otro día, fui a una cena, invitada por una Couchsurfer a quien le había invitado otro Couchsurfer, y rodeada por gente hablando inglés (la mayoría de los asistentes de la cena era americana, británcia, o canadense), me sintía confundida y extraña por estar en la companía de tanta gente hablando inglés. Me había acostumbrado estar en la companía de otros extranjeros o españoles a lo menos, y los dos días que pasé en casa (osea, en los EEUU) estaba con mis padres, hablando coreano.

Ya sé que mi español tiene muchos rastros de inglés, y no me hace más facil aprender español cuando estoy confundiéndome todos los días con los vosotros (que usaba en España) y los ustedes (que usa el resto del mundo hispanohablante). Pero bueno, intento e intentaré: dale pues.  

happy birthday, america! i hope you have a great one, i miss you!

...or so would go my facebook post to the U.S. of A. if she had her very own facebook profile and we were friends on facebook.

having been away from my country for the past three 4th of julys, it's become sort of customary to good-naturedly take the jibes that inevitably arrive with being an american citizen abroad, particularly in recent times with recent developments in the eric snowden fiasco, which has led to a convention of the presidents of bolivia, venezuela, ecuador, argentia, and uruguay which appears to be taking place around the corner of the block where i am living for the summer. given the number of armed personnel lounging casually outside the swankiest hotel in town, i think that it wouldn't be too far crazy to guess that some important people might be staying there, or meeting there.

amidst all this, i've gotten an email from the consulate in la paz regretfully informing me that their 4th of july celebration scheduled for this weekend has been postponed to another date TBD. if the U.S. ambassador is not kicked out along with (potentially) the ambassadors from spain, france, italy, and portugal, then perhaps the fireworks and bbq may be rescheduled sometime in the near future.

to be a U.S. citizen abroad, and particularly to be american and in bolivia at this time is an interesting thing.

i hold a mixture of feelings for my home country, land of my birth and citizenship, where i have lived officially for all my life. in a lot of ways, i am an american through and through. in a lot of other ways, though, i don't know how to define myself, and sometimes to call myself american is a shame, is a stigma. more often than not, i am in a state of mild frustrating and embarrassment due to my country, torn between being fed up with the actions of the government which has been giving the nation such a bad rep throughout the world, and being annoyed by the accusations and stereotypes that come with "your country" and "your people" and "oh yeah, americans".

i guess it's not so bad for me since people always assume i'm from china or japan anyways, so even when i tell them i'm from the united states they tend to ignore it and ask again where i am 'really' from.

a friend's facebook status that i saw earlier said that today is a day to celebrate america's ideals, not reality, and i found that really meaningful. although my country may be kind of that big asshole that everybody loves to hate, the usa was still founded upon a set of ideals which are still valued universally. i have some more thoughts to share on this in the future.
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july 5th update:
it looks like the bolivian president is threatening to close down the U.S. embassy in bolivia. whether this will actually happen or not, i'm not certain, but if he should pull through with his threat, i wonder what will be the repercussions... personally, locally, and internationally.

updates to come.


(photo from a parallel article by the guardian

after 6 months in spain and 1 week in bolivia...

i was talking to my mom on the phone (in korean) and she asked me something and i replied that i didn't know, only i replied in spanish. oops? i think she understood me anyways, although i did repeat myself in korean as soon as i realized that i had said it in spanish instead of the language of the conversation... #brainconfusion #tongueconfusion? 

and i can't stay away.

i'm back. after a 6 month long hiatus following that long amount of time without any updates (although i did try to keep a semblance of a blog on tumblr documenting my adventures in spain (which i also kind of failed), i'm back. well, actually, this time i am in bolivia. after having begun this blog in highschool, picking it back up for my travels in oman, and some of my time in rwanda, i am now in bolivia and trying yet once more. something about humans, right? we try again and again and again, and no matter how many times we fail, we still think that the next time, it just might succeed. so here goes.

By the end of this summer I will have lived on 5 continents in 3 three years. North America, Middle East (Asia), Africa, Europe, and finally, after wanting to come here for so long, South America. It sounds exhausting, and to be a bit honest, it is. I've been in Bolivia for 3 days now, and of course part of the reason why I am so tired of traveling and everything is because I've only just arrived and haven't had much opportunity to settle in. One week ago, I was still in Spain, having just left the city where I lived for 5 months. Less than a week ago, I was back in the States, catching up on precious time with my parents and my sister, devouring Korean food and un/re-packing my suitcases for my next trip. 5 days ago, I got on a plane, and more than 30 hours later, I finally landed in Cochabamba, the city where I will be spending the next [now] 8.5 weeks. Wireless connection in the apartment has been non-existent until a few hours ago, and thus time has crawled a bit. It's hard to believe that it is only Wednesday.

First impressions: Cochabamba does not call itself the city of everlasting spring for no reason - even though the Bolivians here bundle up in jackets and scarves and down jackets, the temperature outside is still pretty warm by my standards, at least til way late at night/early in the morning. It rarely rains, which is more than I can say about Santander (if anybody has ever visited Santander, particularly in a season not summer, they will understand perfectly), so there is not much to complain about there. I honestly don't feel like I have had the time nor opportunity nor energy to get out and explore the city. I have walked around a bit, here and there, and have eaten at a few different places and tried a few different Bolivian foods, but I don't know if my brain just hasn't processed all this and told me "this is worth blogging about!" or if details are too tedious to include at the moment, but I don't know what to say at the moment about Cochabamba other than that the weather is nice. Which, I am fully aware, is possibly one of the worst responses ever given in the history of mankind.

Another note: my co-intern and I are keeping a blog of our trav[ai]ls through Bolivia, which I think should be better/more regularly maintained. In any case, I have the feeling that the majority of my contributions to that particular blog will be entertaining and/or pretty and/or moving photos. Here I will try to keep my dedicated readership updated with some more meat. Pues nada, i think that's all for now.